Respectfully… My Thoughts Were Wrong About Me
- wearedopetogether
- 6 days ago
- 2 min read
Sis… let’s talk.
Not about people on the outside. Not your haters, not your doubters, not even that one coworker who always got something slick to say.
I’m talking about them thoughts.
You know the ones.
“You not ready.”
“You not good enough.”
“You always mess stuff up.”
“Stay small. Stay safe. Don’t try that.”
Yeah… them.
And today? We proving them WRONG.
🧠 First, Let’s Call It What It Is
Those thoughts are not facts. They are not prophecy. They are not God.
They are learned. Repeated. Conditioned. Sometimes rooted in fear, past hurt, or somebody else’s voice that got too comfortable living rent-free in your mind.
So step one? Stop treating every thought like it deserves authority.
Just because you think it doesn’t mean it’s true.
✨ Strategy #1: Talk Back (Respectfully… but Firmly)
You ever notice how quick we are to hype everybody else up but quiet when it comes to ourselves?
Nah, we not doing that no more.
When that thought says, “You can’t handle this,”you respond:“Watch me.”
When it says, “You’re not qualified,”you say:“I’m learning, growing, and showing up anyway.”
You gotta start interrupting the negativity with intention.
Your mind will believe what you repeat; so give it something better to work with.
📓 Strategy #2: Write It Out, Then Rewrite It
Grab a notebook, your notes app, whatever you got.
Make two columns:
Left side: the negative thoughts
Right side: the truth you’re choosing instead
Example:
“I always fail” → “I’ve survived everything I thought would break me”
“I’m behind” → “I’m on my own timeline, and I’m still moving forward”
This isn’t toxic positivity. This is intentional reframing.
🔁 Strategy #3: Build Receipts on Yourself
Listen… confidence don’t just fall out the sky. It’s built.
Start keeping receipts:
Wins (big AND small)
Times you showed up scared but did it anyway
Compliments people give you (yes, write those down too 👀)
When them thoughts start acting up, pull out your receipts like:
“Oh no baby, we not doing this today. I have proof.”
🚶🏾♀️ Strategy #4: Move Anyway
Courage is not the absence of doubt. It’s movement despite it. You don’t need to feel ready. You need todecide to go anyway.
Apply for the thing.
Start the business.
Post the content.
Have the conversation.
Every action you take is another brick in the foundation of proving those thoughts wrong.
🧘🏾♀️ Strategy #5: Protect Your Mind Like It’s Luxury
Because it is.
Limit what you consume (yes, that includes social media that makes you feel “less than”)
Get rest—your brain needs it
Pray, meditate, breathe… reconnect with yourself
Peace is not optional, sis. It’s necessary.
💥 Final Word: You Are Not Your Thoughts
You are the observer. The decision-maker. The one in charge.
Them thoughts might be loud… but they are not in control unless you hand them the mic.
And we don’t do that over here.
Now go ahead…
Show up. Speak up. Try again. Start messy if you need to.
And every time that little voice tries to play you?
Smile real cute and say:
“Yeah… we proving you wrong today.”💅🏾✨
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