I’m Not Spiraling… I’m Ascending (So Mind Ya Business)

Let me just go ahead and say it yes, my hair is in a bun that might not have been intentional, I’ve had iced coffee for dinner three days in a row, and I absolutely cried in my car listening to Jill Scott on my lunch break. But before you clutch your pearls and try to stage an intervention… don’t.

Because I’m not spiraling.I’m ascending.

Yes ma’am, this is what growth looks like. It’s not always cute. Sometimes it looks like you’re one good text message away from snapping but really, you’re just shedding old skin and setting boundaries that feel unfamiliar (even to you).

Sis, Let’s Talk About the “Spiral” That’s Actually an Evolution

Black women have been taught to keep it all together, all the time. Hair laid, bills paid, emotions… buried. But what if the version of you that looks a little “off” to the outside world is just you finally letting go of perfection?

• You’re not answering every text? Ascension.

• You left that group chat full of chaos and crusty opinions? Ascension.

• You’re dressing for comfort instead of compliments? Sis. That’s not spiraling. That’s healing.

  
  

Signs You’re Not Losing It… You’re Leveling Up

Let’s break this down with receipts, because some of y’all need evidence before y’all stop worrying:

✅ You’re more sensitive. That’s called emotional awareness.

✅ You’re tired of everybody. That’s called discernment.

✅ You’re deleting and blocking with ease. That’s called peace.

And baby, if you’re crying a little more these days, don’t panic. Tears are just the detox of the soul. Let them fall, then fix your crown and keep ascending. You ain’t gotta explain your evolution to people who only knew the old you.

Strategies While You Ascend (So You Don’t Accidentally Do Spiral)

Because let’s be real; growth is still hard. So here’s how to stay grounded while you’re elevating:

✨ Check in with yourself before you check social media.Stop scrolling to compare your healing to someone else’s highlight reel.

✨ Say “no” and don’t apologize for it.If “no” was a full sentence before, in this season it’s a whole paragraph with punctuation and a signature.

✨ Have a “Get-My-Life-Together” Playlist.Mine has Beyoncé, Megan Thee Stallion, India.Arie, AND gospel. Because I need both praise breaks and petty energy depending on the day.

In Conclusion… Sis, You Are the Butterfly Mid-Cocoon

Yes, you’re a little messy right now. So what? That’s what becoming looks like. You are not spiraling, you are surrendering. You are not falling apart, you’re falling into alignment.

So the next time somebody side-eyes your quiet season, just tell them:“I’m not spiraling, sweetheart. I’m ascending. Go worry about your own growth.”

I’m choosing soft life, self-love, and sanctified boundaries .

🖤💁🏾‍♀️✨